Our 3rd Anniversary!!

Back in the hotel...post some disappointment we decided to just chill...we ordered some snacks...playing with Riaan we spent a nice evening in our room..wondering how to plan for the next day. All our lavish plans to go around were totally curbed...we had to plan smartly...go short distances...look for any cues of trouble and rush back if needed asap! By the time we slept it was midnight already...I had totally forgotten about our anniversary (yeah!!...thats what happens when a baby comes around....all you remember is the baby's vaccination dates...rest all is history).

Somewhere in the middle of the night when I woke up to feed Riaan...my hubby wished me and I was like shit...it had totally slipped my mind...and then I remembered our last anniversary...we were in Pune...meeting after a month (I was in a training program hence Pune) we had gone to Mahableshwar for a day trip...the light drizzle...soothing breeze...and clouds all around us...we were 2 carefree souls...just chilling...eating and roaming around the whole time...nothing over the top romantic cos both of us are horrible at it but definitely fun given our love for food and travel! Cut to present day - Riaan in my lap..no plans for the next day...I'll be glad if we could have a decent lunch in peace...Life certainly has changed :) but then I looked at this cute smile he had on his face and I felt nothing can beat this for sure!

So finally our anniversary day...I did make some effort to look better :P you know you do not want to look like a zombie on special days..atleast not in the pics for sure and till then I didn't know there are apps which can transform the way you look (else I would have taken the easy way out) so I took out a dress I bought recently...checked myself in the mirror like 10 times..took some selfies (mandatory) and then we were ready to go out.

We had decided a visit to a famous shop - Gulabchand (I obviously had to do some bit of shopping) and then lunch at Spice Court. The shop experience turned out to be quite surprising with Riaan fascinated with all the colors around him..he was happily having his milk while I was choosing suits and kurtis.I was happy to see he has great shopping instincts in him...which was confirmed every time I took him shopping post that so I'm lucky that ways :)

Then at Lunch I was really happy to see the setting of the restaurant we had gone to...it had a traditional feel to it and the food was amazingly yummmm!! For a change Riaan was happy to sit in his pram while we finished our lunch with a sigh of relief.We took some desserts on our way back to the hotel - as a mandatory cake would have been too much for both of 2 finish on our own and we had to do something to make the day feel like we are celebrating...so a yum cookie crumble cheese cake portion  - the 2 of us with our baby...a perfect moment of togetherness!

Like I said in my earlier post...with a baby your equation with your spouse certainly goes through a lot of changes but what matters the most is that both of you adapt to it and make it a point to make your limited moments together special...we may not get time to talk often but whenever we do...the affection we have for each others needs to come out else it makes the other person feel like he/she is not important any more to you...I was happy to see my husband making it a point to do this little celebration for us...it meant a lot to me. And he being He...we didn't click any pics...but I for sure will remember this as a beautiful memory.

This being our 3rd anniversary was by far the most important for me...we had coped up with a major change in our lives and we still were happy together...playing our new roles as a parent but still holding on to the love we had for each other with as much warmth as before.

My Journey of Motherhood - Week 11 contd. - Anniversary Trip

Moving on from that weird meeting...I was looking forward to our Anniversary trip...it was our 3rd anniversary...I was really excited...the last 1 year had been much of a test for both us..I mean me and my husband..all these changes happening around...his job kept him extremely tied up...I had more than enough time (during pregnancy) and now with Riaan with us..we hardly got time with each other.

It's seriously weird the way your equation changes once you have a baby...n that too if you are staying in a joint family..people tend to think that it helps to get some time off...but I think it's the other way round...you are always surrounded with people...so there are days when you wait to spend some quality time with you better half but before you know it...you have other people coming and playing with your baby in your very room and all you can do is smile at them :) I mean it's nice of them to be so loving towards the baby...but at times I really feel that how difficult is it to understand that the new parents should also get some time together - I think it's a basic requirement and if someone is genuinly concerned about you - he/she will understand this.I didn't remember the last time me and my hubby had a meaningful discussion about each other...it was always about Riaan and if not that, then the family in general...it was as if we were losing each other in this whole new set up.

I was not liking this change so this trip was a much needed getaway for me.We were going to Jaipur...I had a couple of old friends to meet there...I had some shopping plans in my mind and just some good time for the three of us.But before we get to that - we had a different scenario when it all started. So like on our trip to Agra, my parents had accompanied us, my in laws were supposed to join us for this trip.Honestly at first I did not like the idea - I mean come on it was supposed to be our anniversary trip - I wouldn't have wanted any set of parents or anyone else to be with us - infact if I had a choice I would have wanted to leave Riaan behind as well...just for a day...I just wanted both of us to be together...just as we were before the baby! But...off course..not possible.

So just 3 days before the trip...due to some work my in-laws had to stay back...and the devil inside me was secretly happy...( I know I sound horrible but it;s the truth)...it was such a comforting thought...it's finally just us...I surely wouldn't have had any issues any other time but on anniversary trips - it has to be just us.

I did get a bit nervous about handling Riaan all by ourselves...but it was far more exiting so we just happily got all set to go.Luggage in the car....baby and mommie in the front seat along with dadda and we went off.Unlike the Agra trip...Riaan refused to sleep in the car this time...which meant we had to keep him engaged constantly with something...like my hand movements...changing his position...pointing to things outside...and his toys! I think that is what had me tired...so somewhere in the middle of the way...I decided to go to the back seat where I will be able to put him down for a while and give my arms some rest.

Luckily to my comfort he slept off for while I was feeding him and I got some time to just enjoy my ride...I love doing that...watch outside in silence...just look at the beauty of the scenes around...absorb the stillness and just relax.I have always loved traveling and now with a baby it was a different experience..but moments like this still made me feel the same satisfaction as before...just as a little girl how I used to love it...I could do it for hours together :)

I was going to jaipur after good 5 years...was about to meet 2 of my friends...one of them after almost 8 years...yeah that long...and we both have had our babies in just about a gap of 1 month...was really exited to see her little doll...and you know it's quite exciting when you meet your long lost friends with their babies :D the other one had just got married (I had missed the wedding due to my pregnancy)... Haaa...I had this faint smile thinking about our prospective meeting and that's when my phone buzzed!