The AFTER L.I.F.E a.k.a Motherhood: My Journey of Motherhood (Part 4)

It was finally my birthday month - even now I tend to get excited about my birthday - this one being my last before I turn into a Full on Mom - had to be special. After ruling out the usual options I decided to go and meet my school kids - that was my birthday gift to myself as I had missed that place terribly and I often thought about going there but somehow it never worked out before. So I was in the school...the moment I entered my class I was welcomed by the warmest smile ever by my girls - it was pure magic :) It is so rightly said that kids have this positive energy so with so many lovely little girls around you are bound to feel that energy too...my day was already special thanks to the warmth and love I got from these little angels.

On our way back home, we (Me and my husband) stopped at one of our favorite places to have a cup of tea and snacks and I was loving it. At times you don't need an elaborate formal lunch or a grand party to feel special...these little things can make you feel far more special and connected with yourself and your partner. These memories are purely for your soul to cherish through the times to come!

The day ahead was filled with lots of calls from my loved ones but one particular call had me furious. ..it was my grandma and she has had this insane obsession of having a boy in the family ever since I can remember. The reason I got furious was that even after three decades of me and my sisters trying to reason out and prove it to her that there is no need to have a boy in the family when we girls can take care of you better than a boy would ever do...she still held the same belief and now her hopes were pinned on me. I felt bad that none of our efforts had changed her mindset and helpless because I didn't know what will?

To add to this, the same evening I got hear from my mother in law that I should keep my baby bump covered as keeping it uncovered ( like without a dupatta) shows disrespect to my father in law and I was like Whaaaaattttttttt? I mean what kind of logic is that supposed to be....you want me to have kids but a natural thing like a growing belly in pregnancy is supposed to be disrespectful??? Like really?? I was like what's wrong with these ladies...why can't they just talk sense?? Ironically we find women stuck on such ideologies more than men which is extremely frustrating...and there was more to follow in the coming months.

It was my baby shower in the following week which made sure I did not dwell on this rubbish for long...I had yet to make some preps...order the cake...call up my friends to finalize the time...and most importantly my BFF from Mumbai was coming around the same time so I was about to have craziness overloaded :D after a loooong loong time and I just couldn't wait.

Honestly, earlier I thought this baby shower concept is highly overrated - but by now I had realized that you need all of this and may be more to keep that "Happy" state of mind if nothing else...it is actually a task - atleast in my case cos my hormones were acting crazy - but my friends, my husband and my sisters made sure I have the time of my life - it was one hell of night where we all got together - shared all the funny memories, crazy gossip and clicked loads of pictures to cherish. I had these fancy crowns - like 2 of them on my head along with that sash which said "Mommy to be" and I was doing every typical thing I otherwise would have made fun of :P but it was beautiful...everyone came to make sure I am happy and I will always remember that....and after that my time with my cute little bestie was just the doze of madness I needed or I guess we both needed :)

The next day we went to Chandni chowk to satisfy our food cravings - Natraj ki tikki - Parathe wali gali ke parathe followed by Kolkata style Puchka and apna local Burger point ka burger...we were all over the place...and full points to my darling husband to make sure we went to all these places and had all this yummm stuff...and I have to say that the food was so much tastier cos I was eating with her...even while writing about it now..I have this big smile on my face and I'm a little moist eyed...I am always going to remember this gesture...it meant so much to me at that point! And to add to this - being complete movie buffs we ended up watching three movies in 2 days - we were joined by our third "devi" the next day and it was just like our good old times in Mumbai - talking - eating and never ending laughter - and offcourse the weirdest selfie session I've had till date!